For many people, designing a wedding can feel very daunting. You said, "yes", and suddenly, you are an event planner. Even if you hire a professional coordinator, there are many decisions that you may want to make. Music is one of those parts of a wedding that you may have thought about for a long time. Or like most people, you may have never thought about wedding music at all. Fear not. Our experience will allow you to relax. Our first bit of advice is that you don't have to pick every tune. Focus first on the biggie: the procession of the bride. Some people start there and leave the rest to us. What is that one song or classical piece that you always envisioned for your entrance?
Most people want to pick the bridal party processional and the recessional. Some stop there and leave all of the seating music and cocktail hour to us. On the other hand, some people get very specific with the seating and cocktail hour tunes by taking the time to choose everything. Others just give a general instruction to play a certain style.
You can pick everything, or just some, and leave the rest to us.
We are happy to consult with you on your music choices. We usually do this via email or a phone call. We are also happy to meet with you in person to help work out the details. About 30 days prior to your event we like to finalize your list with you.
The way you design your wedding is entirely up to you. Some people want to follow wedding traditions from their own heritage and family customs but really you can do whatever you want. There are many websites to consult about format and protocol but we would like to offer some ideas in regard to your ceremony music.
1. SEATING OF THE GUESTS
We recommend starting the prelude 15 minutes prior to the ceremony. This will not only set an ambiance for the whole ceremony but will also serve as a signal for the guests to sit down. You may want to choose music that is lighter and obviously happy sounding.
We recommend not more than two processional songs. Any more than that and you get quick snippets of music and a lot of "dead air" when the musicians are changing pages. Have one great song for the parents and the bridal party, then another special song just for the bride. Traditionally, the groomsmen and the officiant are not part of the official procession. Of course it is entirely up to you!
No matter what anyone says, this is your day. Enjoy every moment. Do not be in a hurry to get down the aisle. Take your time; this is not a Hollywood production.
3. Unity/Sand Ceremony
We recommend a bit of music during the lighting of the unity candle. If you do choose to have music at this time, let the officiant know not to talk over it!
After the introduction of the new couple there is usually hearty applause. We recommend something robust to accompany the exit of the new couple and the bridal party. After they have exited, we usually bring the volume down a bit as the crowd begins to mingle.
Remind the officiant that the recessional music is going to start right after the introduction (so stop talking) lol.